Compare Matt. 18:15. The first step in any quarrel or disagreement is to go quietly to the other person and discuss the matter with him. Even if he seems definitely to be much more in the wrong, there is almost always some element of fault on your side. A confession of this minor error will often bring about a confession of his greater culpability and a consequent reconciliation. To follow the more usual course of telling everyone else the story before attempting to see the other man is to make it almost impossible to secure peace.